I use the phrase “mainstream feminism” a lot, especially when I interrogate everything from the lack of intersectional thinking and perspectives (this has a long history) to the presence of silencing, abuse and preservation of White supremacy (and at times patriarchy itself; how contradictory)…
LOL! “Black Twitter Party” by Issa Rae
LOL. This is really hilarious. So meta. I love the diversity of the various “cliques.” And the “light skinned followback” guy is hilarious.
I’m not allowed to share the thoughts on my mind, because they’re violent ones.
I’m not allowed to talk about suicide because apparently that is “attention seeking”.
I’m not allowed to harm myself, because apparently that is, also, “attention seeking”.
People try to use the fact that a peado groomed me, used me and pimped me out, against me. I’m supposed to feel disgusted about that, apparently. Whilst the man himself is regarded as some sort of “hero” around Croydon. Never hear a bad word against him. Seriously?? He rapes children. But apparently I’m the disgusting one, whom should be ashamed of herself.
Got to love the Rape Culture.
NOTE: Heavy use of sarcasm.
People are disgusting. And they all seem to think suicide is easy. LMFAO. I wish!!
Ah; but of course I am nothing but an attention seeking whore. Why the hell should anyone listen to me? Since when did I decide to get above my station? I should know my place, right?
The Forgotten People
I’m talking about the people who have been Forgotten, or Left Behind by the mental health services; those free services which have been set up to help us, prevent us from hurting ourseleves, and help prevent the breakdown of our mental health.
These are the people whom, like myself, have - in a sense - been “Forgotten.”
People, like myself, who have been bumped from service-to-service in such a way that we have become reluctant to continue engaging with the mental health services.
As I’m sure you may have already suspected, I will be offering myself as an example of one of the Forgotten People.
I feel I have been “Forgotten” - let down - by the mental health services.
I have been under the NHS mental health services from the age of fourteen.
I began my journey with the services with the sunny utopia of the Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services - where therapy seemed in abundance, and available were all manner of satisfying flavours of talking therapies. A child in a therapy service store…
Hmm… Okay, my metaphor fell flat there, but hopefully you get the gist of what I were, albeit very badly, attempting to say.
As the years have passed the amount of services available for me, have been dwindling, as have the quality of those services available.
As I approach 25-years-of age, many more of those free services, services which offer treatment such as drug counselling, are soon to be cut off from me too.
I have a borderline personality disorder diagnosis and have come to the shocking realisation that no-one is really willing to touch personality disordersas we are viewed as being “Too awkward to deal with.”
Like so many with BPD, I am regarded as a “Trouble maker.”
I’ll admit, I’m by no means an easy person the deal with, but certainly I do not wake up and go out with any intentions of making trouble, whatsoever.
And, I can safely say, that the same goes for the large majority of other people with personality disorder diagnosis’s.
Very recently, I was admitted to hospital (again), staying for the duration of less than 24 hours.
I was admitted in the evening on the 29th May 2012. Then, discharged during the afternoon of 30th May 2012.
The hospital felt that I did not need to be there because, and I use their words, not my own, ”My bed could have been used for somebody else, someone genuinely ill.”
I am genuinely ill!
(Don’t worry, the account of this admittance to hospital is relevant to the subject matter of The Forgotten People.)
Okay, admittedly, I put on a "Sane Front" during my very brief stay in hospital; which, in my defence, I did out of, what I felt was, a need to not cause trouble and be regarded as a “Trouble maker.”
Not forgetting to mention the fact that I was not familiar with the hospital I had been admitted to and, probably more importantly, they were not familiar with me. I was taken to a hospital located in an entirely different borough to where I currently live.
I put on a "Sane Front."
Meaning; I pretended to be fine, and found myself heavily skewering the truth when speaking to the doctor on the ward, as I did not want to be under their thumb, as it were; as well as using my Sane Front being a way of keeping myself out of trouble.
I put on such a good act that I was were discharged after just one night, not even a full day.
Putting on a Sane Front had backfired on me!
When I was told that I was to be discharged and that my CPN had spoken to the Ward doctor, I was also informed that my CPN had been contacted and that my CPN would be contacting the Forensic Team, in an attempt to get the help I need.
When discharged and informed of the action my CPN would be taking I felt sorely let down and my anxiety flared - at which point, I removed my clothing, which is something I do to as a way of coping with the claustrophobia of anxiety.
(My coping strategies and mechanisms are not great, to say the least.)
Also, part of me had hoped that behaving this way would make them see how much I need their help; I was unsuccessful, however, and the hospital staff then proceeded to threaten me with police action if I continued refusing to leave hospital grounds.
In regards to my CPN’s plan-of-action; here is the thing, I have already been assessed by the Forensic Team, whom told me that with regret they would be unable to help me as they did not feel their services would be right for me.
When the Forensic Team told me this, I was distraught, as I thought they were fantastic!
I screamed, cried and begged them to take me on, but they told me they could not do that.
The NHS are severely lacking in treatments for borderlines. With the NHS website itself only giving an idea of what treatments should be available, rather than what treatments are actually available.
Which is shocking, especially when you consider that expertise in personality disorders are essential in order to provide treatment. The stigma among mental healthcare professionals against borderlines is far too vast and common.
Personality Disorders are mental health diagnosis’s which need a tentative hand, a person whom is tactful, someone who knows how to remain professional and keep clear boundaries - sadly, this is not something which is available from the NHS for us borderlines.
The mental health services are all too willing to pass the buck; offload their borderline patient onto another healthcare professional; whom will do the same and duly pass their borderline onto another; and this goes on, like a never-ending game of pass-the-parcel.
But my life is not a game, and I am not a parcel.
Even when calling Duty or the Crisis Team, they soon hang up on me due to my bad language, which isn’t directed at them, well, definitely not at first.
My mouth is ”Foul,” expletives do tend to have a way of tumbling from it. I swear when I am engaged in light conversation, or when online perusing forums, or when watching television, or during the throws of passion.
In short, I swear, a lot.
However, when I am swearing, generally, it is not aimed at other people.
Some aspects of my disorder are beyond my control, and I often feel as though I am being blamed for my mental illness.
I long for the days of the Child and Adolescent Mental Health services.
The days of current, of putting on a Sane Front, as one of The Forgotten People, are eating away at me.
The wolves are no longer at the gate, they have broken through, and are now devouring my sanity with a furious voraciousness, ripping me apart, tearing me limb-from-limb, and I feel as though I am bleeding onto the snow, struggling to catch my final breath.
At this time, I am screaming out for help, but there is none to be found. So, I feel I have been forgotten.
I feel like a forgotten person. I am one of the Forgotten People.
During my time at school
I was never one to be considered “cool”
Despite being rather academic
I have always acted the fool.
as I’m sure we’ve all experienced,
people can be very bloody cruel
Although now, as an adult,
I am fortunately blessed with friends
who are guaranteed to answer my call.
Even if most other people
still believe I am nothing more than a “tool”.
The past few months, for me, have been devastatingly hard and, in all honesty, I’ve found it a real struggle.
Without going into too much detail, I’ll give a quick explanation.
At the beginning of October this year I appeared in court facing criminal damage charges, which I have written about in detail before (here).
I am in court again at the end of November - this being an entirely different appearance, where I’ll be providing evidence for the prosecution following a serious sexual assault which happened to myself back in October 2009.
I’m posting this just as a way of explaining myself, nothing more.
I want 2012 to be more than a new year, I want to use it as a “fresh start” (changing my thinking patterns, being more determined in pursuing help, etc.) and to try and move on with my life.
That is why I am looking forward to the end of November, and the end of this year.